Gay Marriage: It’s Not a Gay Issue; It’s a Marriage Issue

Houston, we have a definition problem

Tom Egelhoff
5 min readMar 31, 2022


Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

This is neither a pro-gay nor anti-gay article. If you read either of those into it then that’s your personal bias.

The “Gay Marriage” issue has been all over the news for the past few years. President Joe Biden put his stamp of approval on it.

President Obama reversed his previous public position and added his check mark to the approval column. Not smart to be politically incorrect on such an emotional issue.

While all this high fiving is going on in Washington, North Carolina voters approved Amendment 1 that legally defines marriage, in North Carolina, as being between one man and one woman.

Same-sex marriage has been legally recognized in the U.S. and state of North Carolina since October 10, 2014, when a U.S. District Court judge ruled in General Synod of the United Church of Christ v. Cooper that the state’s denial of marriage rights to same-sex couples was unconstitutional.

And I have no issue with the court's ruling.

With This Kind of Reporting, No Wonder We’re Confused

To get to the truth, I turned to that bastion of unbiased, middle-of-the-road, “we decide; then report,” Pulitzer Prize Winning, The Huffington Post for some clarification on the North Carolina story while it was happening. Here are two quotes, both contained in the very same HP article.

Quote 1: “On Tuesday, North Carolinians voted in favor of an amendment that bans same-sex marriage and civil unions.” (For the “gay” community).

Quote 2: “North Carolinians voted in large numbers in favor of Amendment 1, which formally defines marriage as being between a man and a woman.” (For the “straight” community).

Please correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems to me that The Huffington Post found two ways of saying exactly the same thing, to appease two different groups.

What Does Everyone Seem to Be Missing?

Another quote from the same HP article caught my eye and got me to thinking about the real issue everyone is missing.



Tom Egelhoff

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